Whose got YOUR back?

This week I went through a roller coaster of a decision that has ended up at a completely opposite end point than I had expected. And the reason for this differential is that the people closest to me all rallied, unknowingly together, for me to go the opposite way.

I share this with you because it has highlighted a lesson I thought I knew all too well, but that I clearly need to have reinforced again and again. So that means some of you out there might also benefit from my story.

I can admit now, today, (but trust me yesterday I was still mad!!) that the final decision to ultimately turn down an AWESOME opportunity is the right decision for myself, for my business and for my family.  But, a few days ago, I was drooling at the chance to make this possibility a reality.  For now, I have chosen to close the door and give it some time.

Rather than boring you with the details of the ins and out of my particular experience, I would like you to think about these questions when you are also faced with a huge, juicy, incredibly tantalizing opportunity:

1)      As yourself WHY you need this opportunity. Consider what ‘it’ in particular will offer to you that you can’t do for yourself today.


2)      Whose GAIN is this opportunity? Is there more to gain from the person who is offering you the opportunity versus to you yourself?


3)      Is this really the best TIMING for you with this opportunity?  If you are currently going through a very demanding time in your personal life (young children, relationship difficulties, medical issues, financial stress, etc), do you really have the bandwidth to take on all the implications of this opportunity?


4)      WHO serves on your personal advisory board?  If you don’t have one of these, you need to start building one today. Everyone needs an inner circle of people who are looking out for your best interests and whose opinion you respect.  You need to make sure you consult these people before you make any big decisions.


I’d love to know your thoughts on these points and if you ever have found yourself in a situation like mine where in retrospect you are happy or regretful about the decision you ultimately made.  Thanks everyone!


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